{"id":1818,"date":"2024-08-24T14:09:19","date_gmt":"2024-08-24T14:09:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/isaacodoma.com\/staging\/?p=1818"},"modified":"2026-04-01T22:03:41","modified_gmt":"2026-04-01T22:03:41","slug":"how-to-deserve-what-you-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/isaacodoma.com\/staging\/how-to-deserve-what-you-want\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deserve What You Want"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The most likely way to get what you want is to deserve it. <\/em><\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone wants something.
But not everyone gets what they want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This article will show you the most guaranteed way to getting what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine a University setting, say in the department of social sciences, there is Sophia and Alfred.
Sophia puts in a lot of study hours, tops her class, participate in group projects, mentor other students but rarely goes to parties or social events. She is more than dedicated to her academics and often considered a book warm introvert.
Then there is Alfred on the other hand who barely attends lectures, spend most of his time partying and organizes the best social events. His grades are average, and he\u2019s not very dedicated to his studies, but he\u2019s a lively person to be around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the scholarship committee wants to award a scholarship for academic excellence<\/em>, who do you think deserves it more?  You would agree that should be Sophia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, say the department is looking for someone to be the director of socials, between Sophia and Alfred, the most deserving of that position would very likely be Alfred, for obvious reasons. Not always, but often times, our actions and efforts are good indicators of what we get.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two Nigerians, Kelvin and David are interested in relocating abroad (Japa<\/em>), either through school or a job offer. One day a job opportunity comes by, to get the offer, the requirements is for them to pass the job interview and be in possession of an international passport to immediately process their visa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Both applicants passed the interview. Unfortunately, David does not have a valid international passport, but Kelvin does, who do you think will get the job offer?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deserving something can be a subjective concept, influenced by various factors such as individual effort, actions, contributions, need, the nature of things and fairness. In many significant cases, deservingness is tied to meeting specific criteria or fulfilling certain conditions. And in many cases, meeting these criteria is a function of effort, hard work<\/a>, the right mindset<\/strong> and teachable actions. Such that the choice of what to be deserving of is significantly in the hands of an individual. To deserve or merit something can also be linked to societal norms and values, but in the end, the idea is indeed complex and can vary depending on the nature of things, cultural, ethical, and personal perspectives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although deservingness as used in these examples and explained in this article is not from a purely moral standpoint, it signals that key criteria needs to be met for certain outcomes to be likely. Like the fact that David cannot travel abroad without a valid international passport or that Sophia tops her class and has excellent academic results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talking about merit this way is difficult because you cannot completely ignore the moral aspect  of it. However, the most likely way to get what you want is to deserve it and the best way to deserve what you want is to meet the requirements for what you want. To deserve the academic scholarship in our example demands that you have good academic grades. That a struggling student is struggling because of financial constraints, hence a scholarship would be more useful to him is a totally different aspect of this example and part of the moral angle to deservingness that makes it a complex topic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s take another example (assuming you don\u2019t live in America)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Consider a strong healthy soldier fighting on the battle ground versus a young healthy middle-aged man working from home in a very safe neighborhood. Between these two persons, who is more likely<\/strong> to be shot dead in a gunfire. Your answer would very well be the soldier on the battlefield.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if I replaced the phrase \u201cis more likely\u201d<\/strong> with \u201cdeserves to<\/strong>\u201d ?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consider a strong healthy soldier fighting on the battle ground versus a young healthy middle-aged man working from home in a very safe neighborhood. Between these two persons, who deserves to<\/strong> be shoot dead in a gunfire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will your answer still quickly be the soldier on the battlefield?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This example is both to make the complex moral aspect of deservingness clear and to highlight that there are things you can do that will increase the likelihood of a particular outcome. While some things are not within your control, for many of us, what we deeply want have sets of criteria that are possible to be met. Meeting these criteria is what I describe here as how to deserve what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are environments that when placed in will increase the likelihood of an event. It is not always a guarantee, but the probability is greatly increased. Likewise, it shows a very good way to think about getting what you want. Putting yourself in the position to deserve what you want.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

On wanting something: Desire is important but not enough<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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To deserve is a stronger force than to desire.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, it is possible to deserve something that you don\u2019t want, but to deserve what you want, desire is not enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether you desire something or not, if you meet certain requirements, you become deserving of that thing, and what you deserve is what you\u2019re most likely to get. Hence, put in the effort to meet the requirements of the things you want, so you can increase your chances of getting them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mindset to deserving what you want<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

1. What do you want?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. There are criteria to getting what you want. Figure those out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Meet the criteria. To deserve something, you have to do something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. That you deserve something only means that you have earned the right to get that thing, and as stated before, this is not from a moral standpoint. So, that you deserve something or earned the right to get it does not imply a 100% guarantee you\u2019ll get it, but it means if anyone is more likely to get it, it should be you. The odds of getting that thing is very much more in your favor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, you need to figure out what you want. Desire and introspection can be useful indicators here. Reading widely and talking to smart people are also useful for this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you figure out what you want, your next step is to figure out what you need to do, to be deserving of what you desire. What are the criteria you need to meet that would make you deserving of what you want and desire? You would learn the rules of the game before you can play well. To apply for a school admission, you need to figure out what the school\u2019s admission requirements are, inquire more about them where necessary and meet those requirements. To get that international Job offer, David needed to know the importance of getting an international passport.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Narrowing down the requirements of what you want and focusing on how to meet them is a practical step to deserving what you want. Obviously this often involves making sacrifices, trade-off, investing time to research and reading widely about the requirements you need to meet and the many smart, creative ways to meet them. One thing is for sure, this practical mindset is key to getting what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is also helpful to think of deserving something as a way to increase your chances or probability of getting something you want and not a 100% guarantee that you will get what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is obvious for many reasons, but the important one is that the world is truly complex for 100% of your actions to produce 100% of your outcomes. And this brings us to the place of luck and risk which may seem ironic to be discussed with the concept of deservingness or merit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Place of Luck and Risk<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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It is possible that you meet the requirement for what you want and still not get it, other times meeting the needed requirements is not a function of your effort and actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s also possible that what you want has a hidden requirement, meaning that there is no way you can know that hidden requirement is something you need to meet. Hence meeting that requirements would be merely by chance and not intention or even effort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine two twins, Ashley and Angela who studied the same course and are interviewing for the same role at a company. Somehow, they both answered the interview questions the same way and correctly. So, towards the end of the interview, the recruiters ask if they have any question for them. Ashley says no, that everything was clear and that she enjoyed the conversation. But Angela says yes, that she would like to ask a question. She goes own to ask the recruiter how long she has been working for the company and what she likes most about her job. The recruiter spends the next 10 minutes excitedly answering this question from Angela.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the end of the interview, Angela got the offer but Ashley didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One would say that Angela got lucky since she mostly answered all the interview questions as Ashley did. Unknow to them, the company has an undisclosed requirement that no matter how smart a prospective employee is, if they don\u2019t ask any question at the end of the interview they will not be hired.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Luck can play a big role in life, and it would be foolish to not acknowledge that. I agree with Morgan Housel that the accidental impact of actions outside of your control can be more consequential than the ones you consciously take. So, to be deserving of what you want, is not a 100% guarantee of getting what you want, but it is one of the most likely ways to get what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe safest way to try and get what you want is to try and deserve what you want.\u201d
\u2013<\/i> Charlie Munger<\/em><\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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